Today’s post all about the post-wedding blues – we have a guest blogger! Stellaluna Events intern, event planning enthusiast, Kelly Saroff Allen. Kelly is sharing a little wisdom today on how to fight the post-wedding blues and enjoy this new season of life.
You had the perfect wedding surrounded by friends and family. You took a fabulous honeymoon trip with your new spouse, and now you’ve just gotten home and are settling back into reality. Pretty quickly, you realize that your social calendar is relatively empty, you still have to write all those thank you notes, and you’re transitioning back to the routine of everyday life.
On top of this, you and your new spouse are learning how to be a married couple. Negotiating the holidays, setting up your home and routines together, managing your checkbook. It’s as if everything suddenly stops, and you get a heaping dose of reality. Which can be tough especially after such a major highlight in your life.
Kind of sounds like a bummer, right? This significant life event can easily bring on a bout of the post-wedding blues for both brides and grooms alike. But I’m here to tell you the post-wedding dues are completely normal! Today I’m sharing some tips for how to deal with the post-wedding blues and come out brighter on the other side.
Take Care of Yourself
After your wedding, you’ll likely feel drained emotionally and physically. Get some sleep, a massage, or a mani/pedi–do something to treat yourself. It could even be as simple as finally reading a book just for fun or exploring the outdoors with your new spouse!
Show yourself grace, and know that you don’t have to feel 100%, 100% of the time.
Don’t be afraid to say no to things that aren’t going to bring you joy. Getting married is a great time to reevaluate your extracurricular activities and decide what you really want to invest your time in. Maybe planning your wedding made you start to think about a different career path. Maybe it made you reevaluate some of the relationships in your life. Take this time to explore your options.
Relish the free time you have! Don’t say yes to things because you feel like you need to fill your time–it will fill up naturally later on.
If you have the time while you’re engaged, premarital counseling is a great opportunity to discuss a lot of topics that come up once you’re married. Our officiant required my husband and me to complete premarital counseling, and it ended up being one of our favorite things during our engagement!
Premarital counseling provides an opportunity to take a deep dive into your relationship. It helps set you up for success at the beginning of your marriage. Make a date night out of these sessions—get dinner together afterwards to discuss what you learned and continue the conversation.
Everyone handles money differently, so it’s important to get on the same page with your spouse from the beginning. Try reading a financial book together—a great read especially if you are facing any kind of debt is Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover.
Lean on each other during this transitional time. Don’t be afraid to share your post-wedding blues with your spouse–they want to support you! Openly communicating with each other will further build your trust. And continue to date each other. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you want to give up those fun date nights together!
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
If your post-wedding blues persist, don’t be afraid to ask for help from a licensed professional.
If you find yourself feeling the post-wedding blues, know that it’s completely normal. The post-wedding blues happen to a number of brides and grooms and just take time to heal. Try shifting your perspective to focus on all the fun things you have to look forward to now as a married couple: anniversaries, travels, even that home project that you want to get done! You and your spouse have a lifetime of new adventures to look forward to!
I hope you enjoyed this post and if you want to hear more check out our post on who to tip at your wedding!
Photo: Kelly Sweet Photography